We are often advised: Listen to and follow the voice of your heart, and good fortune will come. In reality, many young people, having received such advice, immediately adopt it as their guiding principle. Why is that? Simply because they want to take control of their lives and be responsible for everything that happens to them.
However, life isn't as simple as they think. Many people desperately pursue their hearts or dreams but still fail to achieve happiness. It's not that this advice is worthless, but rather that it's too difficult to put into practice. In life, messages from the heart are often hindered by toxic habits that prevent us from following them. For example, we tend to blame external circumstances instead of ourselves, or, count how many times you've told yourself that the problem you're facing is beyond your control, "What can I do?!"
Therefore, in this article, we want to reiterate a message: Yes, you should still listen to your heart to take control of your life, but be completely loyal to it to unleash your full potential. And, answer the following six questions to discover whether YOU are the real reason for all the failures in your life.
1. Do you always have a clear picture of what you want?
Many people believe that "If your dreams aren't scary enough, then they're not big enough."
Although the heart always yearns for lofty aspirations, most human minds desire safety and security. We tend to avoid and fear risks and uncertainties in life. But overcoming that fear is crucial to discovering the highest limits of our own potential. If you choose the safest, most peaceful path like everyone else, you might avoid unexpected suffering. However, this choice is also the cause of failure and will prevent you from experiencing complete happiness.
Typically, this is especially true for women, who are forced to sacrifice themselves because society demands it, deeming them unsuitable for the cutthroat competition or forcing them to give up their dreams and careers to care for their families. If you don't try walking your own path, you'll never know how wonderful the ultimate goal can be. Sometimes, changing a life you've meticulously planned can actually lead to better outcomes.
2. Do you suffer from the "too many wives, too many husbands" syndrome?
Do you always feel the need to seek the approval of even complete strangers, simply because you want to feel included, because you lack the confidence to stand your ground and make your own choices without being influenced by the crowd? This can only lead to one thing, not only in the eyes of society, but also in your own perception – you lose your individuality and become indistinguishable from everyone else. You force yourself to live according to someone else's opinions, conforming to their standards of comparison, judging your success by societal norms, only to seek out what doesn't fit, and every action is based on how others have done it before, or you spend your whole life chasing after fleeting illusions.
3. Do you feel your enthusiasm is waning, even for things you were once passionate about?
Have you ever abandoned your long-held passions to chase after other interests, only to end up getting nowhere? The problem is you lack the perseverance to pursue the passions your heart tells you to. There's only one solution: follow your passion while you're still full of enthusiasm. Finding your passion is difficult enough, so once you've ignited it in your heart, don't let that enthusiasm fade away wastefully. Instead, transform this enthusiasm into motivation to resolutely pursue your passion and create something new.
4. Are you someone who always says "NO"?
This could prove to be an interesting experiment. Suppose you want to avoid awkward social situations, do you pretend to be busy on the phone? If the answer is "Yes," then is "No" the word you often say? Believe it or not, consistently answering "no" is also an indicator of the influences affecting your thought process.
Another manifestation of the "no-saying" syndrome is when you're told straight to your face that you're someone who refuses every offer – from going on a picnic to even getting a job. You'll probably tell yourself, even though you're mentally calculating that you're either turning down an incredibly good opportunity or avoiding a terrible prospect, why do you still say "no"?
The answer to this dilemma lies in an interesting experiment. Now, try saying "yes" to every offer; your heart will signal that you must choose something, and instinctively you will know what to do next.
5. Are you a controlling person?
Have you ever simultaneously been a member and a leader of a group? Taking on three times the responsibility for a group task to get things done your way, always choosing individual tasks over group activities to maintain your control? Wouldn't this lead to your subjective influence on all the work? The reason you choose not to rely on others might be that you think you're superior, or simply that you don't want to be just a member and want to maintain control because you believe you know the most.
However, being a controller has both advantages and disadvantages. Once you bask in the glory of successfully completing a task on your own, even a small mishap can cause you immense distress and become a potential cause of failure.
Therefore, in matters that have the potential to lead to catastrophic failure, if you don't have the support of a group or support system, it's better to ignore it than to do so, because you'll never forgive yourself for things you're certain you can't do.
Conversely, many women hesitate to ask for help because they are perceived by society as having an extraordinary ability to handle multiple problems simultaneously. But remember, your biggest problem is that you are only one human being, and so are over 7 billion other people. Even heads of state cannot work alone, so you can't possibly manage everything on your own.
6. Are you always pessimistic?
One of the classic dilemmas is "What if I do?" and "What if I don't do?" makes all the difference. It's a matter of perspective. When you ask "What if I do?", the answer leads to the truth that everything in life can fall apart and all your dreams can be shattered. There's a 50 percent chance you'll fail miserably. However, the answer to "What if I don't do?" will give you a clear list of everything you won't get, because you've killed the opportunity to have it, so you'll have zero chance of success and one hundred percent of suffering and failure.
It's not that you're failing someone else, but that you're failing yourself. Isn't the answer to the question "What if I don't do it?" more frightening? The first question ("What if I do it?") might leave you a little hesitant and lacking in confidence, but at least it still offers a 50% chance of success. The second question, however, completely forces you to act, as the answer guarantees 0% happiness and 100% despair.
Therefore, consider asking yourself, "What if I don't do it?" so you don't miss out on the happiness in your life.
Source: Saga.vn
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